Adoption is a complicated process. It can be extremely taxing on individuals waiting for the opportunity to be parents. People choose adoption for different reasons. Whatever the reason may be, there are things that you need to know about the adoption process.
No matter how simple the process may appear to be, it’s not. There is a lot of emotion surrounding adoption whether a child is being placed at birth or later in life. There are a lot of issues that come up when adopting a child about how open an adoption is going to be. There are fears, grievances, pain, and anxiousness. The adoption can be drawn out over a lengthy amount of time and there can be a lot of barriers to get past. This can become a very stressful time. But understand that no adoption is easy. Just be patient.
Birthparents do not always follow through with an adoption plan. If a birthmother changes her mind, this can be one of the hardest things for adoptive families to go through. Understand that this is also the hardest choice a birthmother will ever have to make. As committed as the biological parents may be to the adoption plan, they still have the right to choose to parent their child. Be prepared and know that this is a possibility and that choice is a right of the birthparents.
There is a such thing as adoption scammers. They are real and they can really work the system. There are a lot of scammers that will use their pregnancy to get money from prospective adoptive parents and then “change their mind” at the last minute. Not every woman that considers the idea of adoption and changes their mind after the birth of their baby is a scammer, and it can be very difficult to spot a scammer. Use your intuition. Always work through an agency and do some investigation. For peace of mind, use an attorney like the family law attorneys at Baker & Harris Law.
Just because someone is a working professional or works for a professional agency, this does not make them ethical and honest. When considering agencies and attorneys to work with, talk to former clients, birthmothers that chose specific adoption agencies, and family and friends of other adoptive families and birth families. Many agencies will hide fees, coerce women into placing a child, or simply become uninvolved with a birthmom after placement. Not only are these actions lacking sympathy and concern, but they are paving an undeniably difficult path for vulnerable people. Taking advantage of a person during a difficult time is immoral. Make sure that the professionals you work with show compassion and support for the birth families, are honest and encouraging, and upfront about their costs and fees. If anything seems unclear or you get the run around when asking specific questions, consider your other options.
If you are unsure of where to start and what your rights are, contact good family law attorneys like the attorneys at Baker & Harris in Blackfoot, ID. They will help you with honesty and integrity.