Waiting to become a parent by adoption can be exhausting for anyone who is choosing to adopt a child. There is not one reason that people consider adoption; there are many. Whatever the reasoning may be, there are many different factors that potential adoptive parents need to know before committing to the process. All adoptions are not exactly the same and may require different steps. It is important to talk to a professional and experienced adoption lawyer who can explain the intracacies of an adoption and what you should expect before you start the process. In Pocatello, Baker & Harris Law is available to help you understand the complexities of adoption and what you should expect for your unique situation.
Adoption is not an easy process
If adoption seems like a simple process to you, you should take some time to look more closely. Adoptions are emotional. They are filled with fear, anxiety, excitement, grievance, and joy. Nobody can forsee the future of an adoption plan or how it will turn out – whether a child is being placed at the time of birth or when he is older – the process is difficult and can take time to complete. There may be different barriers that arise that have to be worked around. Not only can the process be lengthy and emotional, it can also become stressful and painful. No adoption plan is easy or easy to get through. Remember to stay calm and keep your patience.
Nothing is final until the adoption papers have been signed
Biological parents may seem committed to the adoption plan, but they have every right to choose to parent their child at any point during the plan. Nothing is final until they have signed they papers. For adoptive families, this can be one of the toughest experiences and many adoptive families have had to experience it on more than one occasion. Understand that it is the right of the birthparents to change their mind about following through with the adoption and they are aware that they can.
Adoption Scammers – They are real
Adoption scammers are serious and real – as sad as that may be to believe. Scammers may use their preganancy to receive help from potential adoptive parents and then “change their minds” at the very last minute and pull out of the adoption. It isn’t easy to spot someone who is scamming you. However, professionals have more experience and can do some investigating into the biological parents to try to find out more information. The best solution is not to go into any type of adoption plan without the help of a professional family law attorney like Baker & Harris Law.
Not every professional has your best interests in mind
Although professional adoption agencies seem ethical and honest, many of them are not. Some are very pushy with the biological mother and may even try to coerce or guilt trip her into placing her child. Even more agencies become unattached and unattentive to the birthmom after placement has happened, leaving the birthmom feeling very alone and used. Not all adoption agencies behave this way and many do work with the birthmom’s after placement or try to keep the lines of communication open. But there is a large number of a birthmom’s who feel very betrayed by the adoption agencies they worked with. Before putting your trust in an agency, ask to speak to former clients and former birthmothers of the agency. Ask to speak to friends of adoptive families and birth families who have worked with them. If anything seems suspicious, do some more investigating and consider other options.